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Reaching

Monday, May 6, 2019

Over the years I’ve been so many things, occupied so many different roles and identities, relationships and interests. All have involved a kind of reaching. Reaching outward, upward, inward. Reaching away. Reaching toward. I developed myself through reaching.

At best, reaching is a form of stretching that engenders growth. But reaching can also be distortion, taking shapes that aren’t true. I’ve done my share of both kinds of reaching.

So it is with terrified awe that I get out of bed tonight and pad downstairs to contemplate the upcoming birth of my first and probably only child, who at this moment moves in my belly like a sharp-finned fish poking my ribs.

Fishboy Rowan James is scheduled to arrive in approximately seven weeks. Whenever he arrives, I know that my relationship to reaching will change forever. For almost 40 years, I have done the reaching. Now, Rowan will reach for me.

He will reach for the heart, the breast, and the spoon. His reaching won’t stop there, of course; it will go on and on. I will, I trust, want to reach back, want to meet his needs. I hope my capacity to reach back is as natural and instinctive as the good moms I know are promising it will be.

But even so, I will no longer be organized primarily around my own needs, desires, or whims. I suspect this is what led a counseling colleague, himself a father, to recently pop into my office, congratulate me, and cheerily call parenthood an “ego death.”

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Already things are changing. Pregnancy has slowed me down in new ways. I haven’t painted much in the past seven months. I take naps on my lunch breaks at work. I get winded walking up small, gradual inclines. I think, I should paint or write a blog entry, and instead, I just sort of lay there on the couch, watching the leaves move in the wind. It’s okay, I am making a human, I remind myself. But then I think, Gosh, if I’m this slow and the baby isn’t here yet, what’s going to happen to my creative drive after he arrives?

What indeed. I do know that when I transition into motherhood, I will have to temporarily suspend my notions of space, boundaries, and clear lines, all of which are the very essence of how I have learned to navigate in the world. Already, right now, my body is Rowan’s body. My attempt at sleep is his swimming pool. And he hasn’t even emerged yet.

I can think about this, but I can’t wrap myself around it, not in the quiet of my newly minted art studio, fresh flowers in a vase and a soft candle burning on my desk. In here I still have a reassuring sense of my space. Of me and mine.

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Another colleague–a mom–recently told me, “Before I had my baby, I thought it would be my life with baby. After baby, I realized that the baby was my life.”

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Well anyway.

I can say, at least from here, that I intend to keep counseling, writing, and painting. After all, Carl Jung said that nothing has a greater impact on a child’s psychological development than the unlived life of the parents.

However, when baby comes, I concede I probably won’t reach for the brushes for awhile. Paint brushes, that is. Bottle brushes, those are a different story.

Sources

Sunday, January 14, 2018

My last couple of aspen paintings were inspired by this photo, taken on a hike with my husband and brother-in-law just outside of Durango, CO last summer.


For a long time the photo intimidated me. So much information! I loved the wildflowers and the darkness at the back of the forest, but the aspen trees were so young, their limbs so delicate, and I usually paint mature aspen, and no grass or ground, just trees, leaves, and sky.

But my work was feeling stale and predictable. I needed to take a risk, to be willing to try and get it wrong, or be surprised by finding a new kind of “right.” First I made this painting. I wasn’t sure about it at first, but it grew on me quickly.

Young Aspen, 30 x 40″ (sold)

After I sold the painting, I missed it. I also wondered if that looser more wild way of painting was just a fluke. Some of my previous work has felt that way. No matter how successful the results, I could never reproduce the style. But I had some uninterrupted time on my hands, and I thought I’d give it a try on a larger canvas. I thought I’d try to show some of the depth of the forest, and the way the light was hitting the leaves and the ground. I was scared. Anytime I attempt to capture even some realistic elements of a photo in my paintings, I freak out. The familiar monologue starts up that I don’t have the skill or the training, and I should stick with what I’ve come to know, with what feels safe, and with what predictably sells. Sigh.

Thankfully, that’s no fun, while getting into new territory is. So I gave it a go, and I’m pretty excited about how it came out. So excited, in fact, that the next painting I’m about to start is sourced from an even more intimidating photo–one of Gum Root Swamp at dusk, with water. 

Summer, Durango, CO, 48 x 72″

Aspen Grove

Monday, August 21, 2017

Aspen Grove

48″ x 60″

My husband and I were able to hike in an aspen forest in Colorado during our honeymoon this summer. The leaves were still green but I could easily imagine them turning yellow, shimmering or “quaking,” and falling. When we got back to Gainesville, I painted the aspens.

I’m not sure there’s ever been a more compelling time to consider aspen trees as a meditation on human connection. Aspen groves are actually all one organism, joined underground by elaborate root systems. What appear as distinct forms are in fact individual expressions of a single living creature.

 

Cypress Swamp

Wednesday, May 3, 2017

Cypress Swamp

30×40″

My husband and I recently bought road bikes. We’ve been riding the Gainesville-Hawthorne trail as much as we can lately, and it sure is lush out there. Thomas’s bike is significantly fancier than mine, and truth be told, he’s a lot stronger than me, too. This means we ride the first few miles together, and then I tell him to take off ahead of me, an arrangement we both enjoy since solo biking a long paved trail through the woods and cypress swamps is one of the most Zen activities around.

I’ve had this week away from work, which gave me a few glorious uninterrupted mornings to paint. I painted this piece today, a view from the Gainesville-Hawthorne trail that arrests me every time I bike past it.

Birds

Thursday, May 19, 2016

Lately I’ve been making some watercolor greeting cards, just for fun, and often to keep me sane during meetings. I like the cards but I don’t take them seriously–I think of them as childlike and somewhat trivial.

Bird Card

Recently I mustered up the kid in me and made a bigger version of the birds on canvas.  It’s a simple painting a child might enjoy. Who knows–maybe an adult, too.

Birds

Birds, 30 x 48″

The thing is, the more time I spend with children (and consider starting a family of my own), the more I feel like the trivial one (especially spending so much time in meetings). Meanwhile, the kids in my life see straight through trivialities. They hate sitting still and want nothing more than to feel the simple joy of making stuff, playing outside, and participating fully in life.

Bird Card

They use bright colors and simple shapes in their art.

They get excited when the sun wakes them.

They still love the birds.

Bird Card

 

 

 

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